The Asperger’s Geek is what I call fictional characters that display stereotypically autistic interests and behaviour, yet in my opinion do not accurately represent autism spectrum disorder. Examples of the Asperger’s Geek can be found in television, films and (to a lesser extent) books. It is often used by writers who have not done enough research into autism, and therefore find themselves resorting to the use of outdated stereotypes, often without realising it.

The most popular example of this stereotype is The Big Bang Theory’s Sheldon Cooper. Sheldon is a highly skilled physicist who is rude to others, has a pathological need for routine/repetition and receives support from his friends and family when in difficult social situations. The show’s producer has stated that he does not want to label Sheldon with autism. Actor Jim Parsons (who plays Sheldon) knew very little about autism and Asperger’s when the show first aired. Upon researching the disorder Parsons came to the realisation that Sheldon ‘certainly shares some qualities with those who do [have Aspergers]’ (Parsons).  Most people I come into contact with (including the parents of autistic children) describe Sheldon Cooper as ‘that character who’s really autistic’. It would seem that whether intentional or not, Sheldon has become a poster boy for autism.

I watch The Big Bang Theory regularly and find it very entertaining. However, I believe the autism stereotypes it presents could be quite damaging, especially given how little most viewers know about autism. Sheldon is really a caricature of ASD, with certain aspects of the disorder exaggerated to an astronomical degree in order to provoke humour (for example, Sheldon keeps a spreadsheet of his bowel movements) and other more distressing aspects of the disorder missing entirely, such as the crippling anxiety caused by sensory overload.  One aspect of The Big Bang Theory I do like is that Sheldon has an active social life. The rest of the autistic characters I’ll be discussing have little or no interest in socialising, a popular misconception about autism. Several of my friends and I have Asperger’s Syndrome, and while it can be draining, we love spending time together.

What I find very unrealistic about the character of Sheldon Cooper is his high self-esteem. Several times in the show, he refers to himself as brilliant, intelligent and the next stage in human evolution. Christopher, autistic protagonist of popular novel The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night Time also has a high level of self-esteem. In the real world, a healthy self-esteem is often lacking in people with autism. A lifetime of struggling to maintain friendships, awkward social interactions and being bullied often lead high functioning autistics to develop poor self-esteem and resultant mental health issues. I’ve met many adults with Asperger’s Syndrome who are undergoing treatment for depression, anxiety and self-harm. Sixty six percent of the Asperger’s population have experienced suicide ideation at one time. (This is higher than the percentage of suicide ideation almost any other group of people, including patients with schizophrenia, bipolar disorder and terminal illnesses).

Why are these statistics so important? Surely there’s no place for them in The Big Bang Theory, a light hearted comedy about nerd culture.  Well there should be. Most of The Big Bang Theory’s audience have come to accept Sheldon as autistic, and if he doesn’t represent autism in a realistic manner it could create unhealthy perceptions about the disorder. For example, the other characters in the show repeatedly lose patience with Sheldon, snapping at him, openly laughing and making fun of his issues. That might be fine for someone with Sheldon’s ego. But for a real person with high functioning autism, who has enough social awareness to understand when they are being made fun of and therefore an understandably fragile ego, this kind of teasing could have disastrous consequences. We need to learn to treat autistic people with patience, kindness and respect. They are people in their own right and do not exist solely for the entertainment of others. Furthermore, autistic people who watch the show deserve to see a realistic portrayal of their disorder, regardless of how light hearted and fun The Big Bang Theory is attempting to be.

Surprisingly, autistic activist Temple Grandin supports the show, suggesting:

‘Silicone Valley is full of brilliant people who look and act differently, like the geek character Sheldon in the television series, The Big Bang Theory. If you’ve never watched this show, do so. The four main characters all have social challenges in various ways, and this series can be used to discuss social problems and solutions with a spectrum individual.’- (Grandin, “The Way I See It”, p. 282)

I have to disagree with this. While Temple is highly intelligent and has taught me a great deal about autism, she often supports the damaging stereotype of the Asperger’s Geek with assertions that ‘There is no black-and-white dividing line between computer nerds or geeks or Asperger’s or high-functioning autism’ (Grandin, p. 283) ‘geeks, nerds, and people with mild Asperger’s Syndrome are often one and the same thing’ (Grandin, p. 172).

As a young person with Asperger’s Syndrome, I cannot relate to these sweeping generalisations at all. I’ve never been that into comic books, video games or other aspects of nerd culture, and just because someone is doesn’t mean they automatically develop social issues. Popular examples of the Asperger’s Geek, such as Sheldon Cooper from The Big Bang Theory, Christopher from The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night Time and Nathan from X and Y are depicted as only being interested in maths and science, and having little or no imagination. Yet I hate maths and science because there’s only one right answer. Many of my neurotypical friends are into computers, video games and nerd culture. Like the characters in The Big Bang Theory we often meet up at a comic book shop. But we are not, as Grandin puts it, ‘one and the same’ (Grandin,  p. 172). Regardless of how nerdy they are, my brain is still physically different to the brains of my neurotypical friends. Claiming a computer geek is the same as someone with Asperger’s Syndrome is like claiming someone who doesn’t enjoy exercise is the same as someone with Cerebral Palsy.

Sheldon from The Big Bang Theory, Christopher from The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night Time and Nathan from X and Y are all male. Indeed, almost every example of the Asperger’s Geek is male. That there are so few role models for autistic girls in our culture really frustrates me. Growing up, admitting to my Autism made me feel extremely isolated- it felt like there was no one else in the world like me. Indeed, autistic women are so invisible in our society that many women with Asperger’s Syndrome remain undiagnosed until their twenties or thirties. This means they go through life without any support for their disorder, and can develop severe issues with mental health, self esteem and communication as a result.

Young adult fiction writer and Corrine Duyvis recognises this problem, suggesting:

‘If I’d seen that girl in my books, I might have thought, She looks familiar. And if, in that book, someone used the word Asperger’s or autism to explain those obsessions and oddities, I might have mentioned it to my mom. We might have been able to get a diagnosis before I ran into all sorts of trouble later down the line. Instead, I saw Rain Man on TV. I never once thought, that looks familiar.’ (Duyvis)

The stereotype of the Asperger’s Geek is damaging because  it implies autistic people lack an interest in socialising, are much more thick skinned than the reality and simply does not represent the majority of people on the spectrum, especially women. However, there is one more reason why the characters in The Big Bang Theory, The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night Time and X and Y are creating unhealthy perceptions about autism, and that is their intelligence.

In my article “Autism and Intelligence” I told you about a conversation I had with a neurotypical friend who believed autistic people are, in her words ‘usually really intelligent or really talented’. My initial response was to feel ashamed and keep quiet about my diagnosis. I’m not that intelligent or talented. I’m just a normal girl who happens to have been born with Asperger’s Syndrome. But that’s nothing to be ashamed of. I don’t know a single neurotypical who feels guilty about not being a maths or a science genius, so why do we place these absurdly high expectations on people with autism? Because of the books, films and television shows that only feature stereotypical Asperger’s Geeks. Because of the documentaries and news broadcasts that suggest genius is an inevitable part of autism, when in reality very few people on the spectrum have savant qualities.

I dislike this assumption that all autistic people are reclusive geniuses because to me it implies we’re expected to “make up” for our lack of social skills and the support we require by excelling in another area. As though being born with a disability immediately puts you in debt to society. There is nothing to make up for. Autistic people are not less than neurotypicals; we’re just a little different, and that difference should not shame us or put us in debt. The reason I require extra support has nothing to do with autism itself, and everything to do with the fact that autistic people only make up one percent of the population. If the majority of the world’s population was autistic, we would have built a world that enables autistic people to flourish, and in that scenario I do not doubt for a second that neurotypicals would be the ones classed as disabled, because they would be trying to navigate a world not remotely suited to the way they think.

So how can we build a world that is more autism friendly, a world where the rate of depression and suicide ideation is the same in the autistic population is it is for neurotypicals?  We can start by getting rid of the Asperger’s Geek stereotype and representing autistic people in a realistic manner. I often hear people saying Autism Awareness Week should be changed to Autism Acceptance Week, but in truth I don’t think the world is quite ready for that. How can people truly accept something that they know nothing about beyond a few entertaining stereotypes? And how can autistic people ever feel normal, validated and less alone if according to films, books and television people like us don’t exist?

There are autistic people out there who are creative. There are autistic people out there who are social. There are autistic people out there who are female. We exist, and we have a right to be represented accurately.

6 thoughts

  1. Its your uncle again – I really enjoyed the last entry on your blog – i found it very inspiring and thought provoking. I thought i’d write a reply. I think that part the issue here is the ‘truth verses myth’ problem with stereotyping.

    Just as we elect governments when around a third of the population can’t manage to think beyond their own front door step – so once a third or so, of any labelled demographic sub group show a common ‘tendency’ the stereotype kicks in.

    For Aspie men – while much of this stereotype can be refuted, it is research, clinical study and experience that promotes ‘generalisation’, in the first instance.
    The social commentators, comedians and srcipt writers then ‘add some’, and a popular ‘TV ‘ stereotype is born. While this does not sit comfortably with many of us, most will enjoy the show ( I’m sure you get my point).

    As for female Aspie stereotyping – the TV stereotype has not yet fully evolved, this is ( in my view anyway ) simply because aspergers has been understood in men ( arguably by men ) for around 50 years or so, and most of what the academics are ‘definite’ about – is that ‘male’ aspie is ‘in the box’ – it is understood – we know who he is and what to expect .

    The very same books and papers, that are so definite about about AspieMan, become much less definite when aspie woman is ‘on the couch’. AspieWoman is a more subtle, more inifinitely variable being, much harder to pin down. While generalisation is the goal of the clinicians, for the time being, what is written about aspie woman is very much ‘we don’t honestly know’.

    Some aspie women have their own ( often self styled ) sociable, emaphetic nature etc etc etc unlike their male counterparts etc etc etc …. this is not a quote – but the impression I got from reading some ‘authoritative texts’, one particular book written by the woman who assessed me some five years ago …… even after a life time of university study, clinical analysis, observation and generalisation, the academics have failed to put Aspie Woman ‘in a box’ …………….

    Here here ………Well done I say ………….. Just because we are not neurotypical does not give (neurotypicals ) a god given right to ‘understand’ us and predict our every next move. We are individuals, just like everyone else.

    Aspie women – be yourselves – and in another 50 years a TV show will be written that will be a cronic and disrespectful simplication of your very being – and in a bizarre way – that is social progress.

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  2. I found this blog after googling ‘curious case of the dog in the nighttime stereotype’ to see if there were others who had the same reaction as I did to the book (or in my case to seeing the play.) So I was obviously delighted to read this! You articulate the issue brilliantly and concisely.

    Although not diagnosed myself one of my two children has a diagnosis of ASD (what would have been Aspergers until they recently became reluctant to use the term) and we’ve had many years of both him and us being misunderstood and misjudged by schools and various ‘authorities’. These days (miraculously following his diagnosis) the school are nothing but helpful, but in fact it’s still a constant uphill struggle to get most people to understand him, including even family members. The stereotypes persist and it seems there are few attempts in the arts and in the media to change them. I had high hopes for ‘a curious case’ but feel let down by it, especially reading that the author by all accounts simply jumped on something he knew would attract attention to his book, without actually having any prior understanding of the condition. The are now thousands of people who believe they have a clearer understanding of autism because of reading that book, which as far as I’m concerned is a lot of damage that is very hard to undo.

    Also (just to complete my vent!) one thing that seems to go unmentioned is the fact that almost all of the ‘humour’ in the book is derived from the reader laughing AT the way the lead character thinks rather than with him, which apart from being morally questionable seems to me to be a dead giveaway that the character is basically no deeper or more believable than a slightly more extreme version of Sheldon from The Big Bang Theory.

    One thing you wrote that I think really sums up the general public attitude is that people presume autistic people have talents that make up for their disability, as if they are born owing a debt to society. This is so true and brilliantly put! Why people think this I can only think is because they don’t really want to accept autism as a disability at all, that deep down they suspect it to be a choice. But we’ve been here many times before in many ways; there are still hundreds of thousands if not millions of people who believe being gay is a choice, so no surprises I suppose.

    But just thought I’d let you know, you’ve inspired me today!


    1. Hi Tim 🙂 I’m really glad you enjoyed the article and I hope things will get easier for you and you’re son, for me working with someone who knows, understands and respects autism has made a real difference! It’s a shame that Curious has so much popularity, while an entertaining read you’re right to suggest it encourages us to laugh at people with autism and often supports negative stereotypes. What you said about society thinking we have to “make up” for autism because deep down people still think autism is a choice is really interesting. I’d never thought about it like that before.

      stay inspired



  3. Thanks for voicing exactly what about the ‘geek’ model of autism bother me so much. It is a damaging stereotype, that manages to both negatively stereotype certain traits of the disorder, while at the same time completely ignoring the real difficulties faced by people on the high functioning end of the autistic spectrum.

    Yes, characters like Shelden Cooper are a warmer improvement from the emotionless Rainman or the robotic and borderline sociopathic Christopher Boon. But they are far from perfect.

    We are making great progress with the portrayal of individuals with conditions like bipolar disorder. Screen writers really need to catch up with the decent portrayal of people with Asperger’s syndrome.


  4. I’m 64, undiagnosed ‘officially’ but for all my life knew I was different, was bullied, even by children that didn’t know me, who called names and threw stones at me. 20 years ago, I heard a radio interview and the penny dropped. I was autistic. More recently, after years of trying to hide my ‘shameful secret’, I started researching and now know I’m as Aspie as you can get.

    What makes me so angry is, having tried to tell people, I am faced with disbelief, even anger and the, (god help me I could kill them) “Oh everyone has that!” And, “Oh but when we were teenagers, you were so much more confident than me.” That was was me trying to desperately fit in and acting an Oscar winning performance because at 19 I was already having suicidal thoughts.


    1. There’s a lot in your story that I can relate to. There are still people in my life now that refuse to accept me being autistic, and given that I was “in the closet” about my diagnosis for so long, and it took so much courage for me to admit to it, I feel absolutely crushed when I’m dismissed like that. I think these people are just misguided, and honestly trying to help me by normalizing what I’m feeling through saying things like ‘oh no you’re not’ and ‘everybody feels like that sometimes’, but of course, we know it doesn’t help. I think people on the high functioning end of the autism spectrum often fall into this trap where we come across as too normal to have our support needs understood and met, but not normal enough to be accepted by the rest of society. I don’t speak for everyone… this is just my experience. All I can suggest is do your research, and if people respond ignorantly, try and educate them. That shouldn’t be your responsibility, and it can be incredibly frustrating at times, but don’t give up. You’d be surprised by who does and doesn’t accept you for who you really are. I know that I’ve lost some friends because they just weren’t prepared to acknowledge my (at the time) crippling issues with mental illness, autism and social alienation. But I’ve also made friends with some incredible, funny and supportive people who I might never have looked at twice if it wasn’t for their understanding of autism.


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